I myself am the Chinese/Irish- America as well as we do have distinguished asian features, currently we met my husbands cousin. Now my father is the honeyed male though LuAnne is the single chairman we can’t contend the same for. The initial thing Luanne pronounced to John was "Is she the single a’ those mail sequence brides we get of the internet?" John only laughed it off, though we could discuss it he was starting to get uncomfortable. Through out the dusk LuAnne had asked me "Where have been we from?" Like she was assumes we am not REALLY from New York we pronounced we was from New York as well as afterwards proceeded to ask "No, where have been we REALLY from?" we afterwards told her we was innate in Lenox Hill Hospital, to aviod any serve questions of this inlet of told her myfate hrr was innate in China as well as my father was innate in New York. Every time we see her it is the same routine, where have been your from, what is China like, how do we contend hello in your language, as well as such. But what unequivocally got me starting this time is she called me fat for as well as "asian". we am twenty-four as well as the half weeks pregnant, of march we am the bit .. large. How do we insist to her which we am an American, as well as we do not feel gentle deliberating this similar to this?
She additionally asks me because my name doesn’t "sound english".
BigLips, we referred to we do have distinguished asian features.
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Amy
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
OMG I get that so much from ignorant people. I was also born in New York (Beth Israel by Union Square haha). One of my co-workers always ask me how old I was when I came to this country or how often I go back to China. I’ve been working there for over a year now.
LuAnne might just be ignorant, like my co-worker. Or she might be just a brat and trying to get a reaction from you. You should ask her if her ancestors were on the Mayflower.
Maria
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Well, I don’t know why her calling you Asian would offend you, but she’s clearly ignorant, so you really can’t help her. My advice is to smile and nod like you would with any crazy person, and change the subject, or ask your husband to tell her to lay off. She sounds like she’s just trying to make you uncomfortable. Maybe she doesn’t approve of interracial relationships.
bunnielove89
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
It sounds like she is doing this on purpose. I think she gets that you are American and born here and she is just trying to get under your skin. I would just lay it on the table. You have already tried to be nice and have answered her same questions over and over. You might need to quit being so nice. Say,"look I am American, I was born here, My mother was born in China. Now knock it off your not funny or cute and it is getting really old."
Sleazy P. Martini
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
My wife is Japanese American and early on in dating, she was making some dumb comment about how Asians have more "virtue" ingrained in them culturally or something – this after months of her talking about how people put too much pressure on Asians for being "virtuous" or "studious" or whatever. I called her out on it, and she told me that I wouldn’t get it because I was American.
"Well, you’re just as American as me," I retorted. She said it was the first time in her life that anyone had ever even come close to saying something like that to her. She was always "the little Asian girl," both for the good and the bad. Even with her friends, there was a consciousness that she was Asian before American.
It’s a shame that people in America think this way, but yes, there’s a lot of ignorance about what someone’s racial/ethnic identity makes them in terms of nationality. I’m an ethnic Swede, but I’m American… and I’m just as American as an ethnic Mexican, Lebanese, Kenyan, or Vietnamese who was born here, however we seem to disregard this and go under the assumption that American = white or black.
We see that with our daughter who like you is mixed, who’s a little over a year old now; people want her to either be Asian, or white – usually white people say she’s Asian and Asian people say she’s white. She was born in San Francisco to American parents… but sometimes back home in Boston, people are like "oh, is she Japanese/Chinese, or American?" (people in California seem to be less dumb about these things)
I would say that for better or worse now that you’re expecting you can use that as a free pass to call her out on it (i.e., if she’s really offended and it causes a family faux pas, you can just be like "I was hormonal, I was pregnant, jeez, get off my case"). My sister for whatever inexplicable reason since we came from the same household was very ignorant and prejudiced towards Asians or hapas until she met my wife and I called her out on her opinions later; that set her straight. Maybe the same could happen with her.
FTR, Luann is a friggin’ horrible name, that name is totally trailerpark/Walmart. Ask her whether Jeb went "A-GELP-GELP-GELP SOOOOOEEEEY!" when he won the tractor pull last week, that’ll teach her.
Pervert
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Once again, in America, people refers you by your look. No matter what you do, you can cook all the american food, drive american cars, buy everything american, speak perfect american english, go to church weekly, or just do everything "american", if you look asian, then they refers to you as "asian". Even an eastern european who immigrates here would be more "american" than you are.
and by "american", I mean ignorance and stupidity. still wanna be "american"?
Charlie D
August 29th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
does she have a learning disability? brain damage?
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